An amazing part of what I do is that I get to talk to people all over the world. I get to learn about each person, their experiences (good and bad), the economy, religion, weather, and events. You name it, I’ve probably learned about it.
Yeah, I know, pretty cool.
I can’t lie to you, I feel blessed. I have a wife that loves me, a baby that gives me a new meaning, the freedom to do what I want and, as mentioned, the opportunity to talk to every kind of person imaginable.
More blessed than I thought
Recently, I was talking with someone in Sri Lanka. I live in Canada.
Technology, incredible right?
Before this conversation, the only thing I knew about Sri Lanka was that the flag is awesome.
Seriously, look at this thing.
Our conversation opened with the usual small talk.
The kind meant to “feel” each other out, while frantically searching for a common ground that the conversation can be built around.
Are you from Sri Lanka?
Have you lived there all your life?
What do you like about it?
Argh…”How’s the weather?”
“What do you do?” – I really hate this question. Not once have I been asked this because the other person actually cares what I do. I’ve never understood why they don’t ask the real question, “What can you do for me?” but I digress.
As the conversation continued we found out that we share a common interest.
Just like me, he is an educator. While I teach people how to tap into their full potential and realize the life they deserve, he teaches languages to his fellow countrymen. 3 of them to be exact.
I can barely speak English, let alone two other languages. Although I felt slightly inferior, I found myself thoroughly impressed.
I learned that he is also an entrepreneur. With that, we finally had some common ground! As we continued, I learned that he is married and has a family. Perfect! More common ground.
I asked him some questions about his wife and children.
How old are they? How long have you been married? Just some generic ones to learn a little bit about them.
I was extremely unprepared for his answer. His wife and children lived in a different city than he does.
Different cities? You mean like Mississauga to Toronto or New York to New Jersey different?
More like Los Angeles to New York or Vancouver to Toronto different.
Perplexed, the only word I could muster up was “Huh…?”
Yeah, I know, real intelligent Joel.
They save their money so that when they get some vacation time, they can be together.
I continued to probe to find out more about this unusual situation (which turns out isn’t so unusual). They wound up like this because the company she works for transferred her.
Can you imagine having to live away from your family for a few days? Now think about a year at a time?
How could the circumstance of their situation lead them to be separate from one another?
Jobs were scarce in his part of the country and in order to support their family, he and his wife moved apart.
Stop and think about the magnitude of that for a moment. The only way that they could support their family was for them to be apart. I bet it makes you wonder, “can that happen to me?”
What you actually need to wonder is, “what am I doing to prevent it?”
Fire in the eyes
In my world, we talk an awful lot about your “why”. Why you do what you do and how can you use that “why” to fuel your life. It’s easy to see when the “why” a person has is so strong that they will stop at nothing to achieve their goals.
You see a fire in their eyes.
Talking to him for 25 minutes I knew his eyes burned brighter and hotter than anyone I had ever met. He worked for a reason that many can’t understand:
To be with a family that was taken from him.
How would you handle this situation?
I’m willing to be, much the same way that I would. Work your ass off so that you can be with your loved one again.
A new appreciation
Talking with him gave me a newfound appreciation for my own life. I hope that reading this gives you the same appreciation for your life.
- The next time you are whining about how bad you have it, just stop
- If you think you don’t live a good life, but you do, appreciate it
- When you approach a new task, job, or endeavor, work as if it is the ticket you need to see your family again
- Don’t complain about the small things
- Find your “why”
- Never underestimate what you can achieve
- Stop at nothing to achieve your goals
- Prioritize what is important
- Always put yourself in favorable situations
- Live your life the way you want to live it
Cheers to your success,
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It is entitled:
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Needless to say, I’m very excited.
I’ve poured everything that I have into this guide so that you can take control of your life.
I sent it out to a select few to garner some feedback and this is what I got:
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This compliment made me turn redder than an 80’s Trans Am.
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