The Power Of Words and What You Need To Know About Them
Nothing holds our lives hostage more than the words that we choose to use. They define us and give our lives shape and balance. They give us certainty when there isn’t any and provide hope when all seems hopeless. The words that we choose directly affect every aspect of our existence.
And for these reasons and more, it is imperative that we choose them wisely.
An artist, a poet, an author, and a screenwriter fully understand the power that words have over us. They meticulously handpick each word that they use in an effort to convey the exact message that they wish us to hear.
Like Neverland, they must move their audience to a place that they have either never been before or have completely forgotten. It is their solemn duty to create an emotional attachment to someone that they have never met before in a matter of minutes. All can do it. Few do it well.
Our lives are no different. We allow the words we use to sculpt our very being. What we say, what we think, and what we believe is just as integral as the food that we choose to eat. We are what we eat? We are the words we use. Words hold a power over us that very few things can replicate.
For these reasons and more, I caution you to be careful in how your words represent you.
Power of words – “I am”
The power of words is never more clearly illustrated than it is through the words “I am”. These two words when said in succession have the ability to directly influence us more than any other force. When we choose to use them we must be careful with whatever follows for “I am” will accurately and inaccurately describe how we perceive ourselves.
I am kind, smart, giving, caring, loving, angry, frustrated, sad, fearful, and worn-out. Not only does “I am” convey our feelings, it classifies our very being. I am a father, a lawyer, a musician, a student, and a server. Once we say the words “I am” we immediately begin to believe whatever follows.
This is where we encounter our biggest problem.
Our belief and faith in the words that we have chosen to use are the single biggest reason that we find ourselves where we currently are. These words and the way they are constructed dictate to us who we are, what we do, and how we are. (If you want to read an amazing article illustrating the importance of “I am” go to positivelypresent.com)
Power of words – Failure
Through words, the world tells us that we must fail before we succeed.
The world convinces us that in order to achieve everything we desire, we must first fail. Fail hard and fail fast. Analogies like life is a roller coaster and we must take two steps forwards and one step backward, plague most success books and articles. YouTube is overrun with videos explaining the various reasons that success doesn’t happen unless we fail first.
The world around us spends an abnormal amount of time glorifying the word failure and this is a problem.
The word fail has become a rite of passage for society. To fail is the uneducated person’s way of tricking themselves into believing that they must fall flat on their face before they will achieve anything. If it sounds painful it’s because it is.
I ask you, what would happen if we changed the word fail to something more uplifting? Perhaps it be replaced with the word education? I cannot speak for you, however, in my world, failures don’t exist, only education.
Which brings me to wonder if the world chose to use the word education, would this word lessen the likelihood that setbacks become permanent? If we looked differently at the things that cause us trouble, would we be more likely to push forward in the face of adversity?
Definitively, yes. Of course, we would.
If we understood that there are no failures in life, only education, there would be no such thing as a setback. The inevitable heartache of failure would disappear and be replaced by the hope that education brings.
Power of words – Education
We spend the first 25 years of our lives undergoing education because it brings us hope that we will one day finish the “I am” sentence with the career that we aspire to have. We incur debt and we give up years of our lives for it.
Even the tests in which we take so that we may finish our “I am” sentences with how we desire to be are graded on a pass/fail scale. These scales are antiquated and unfair to whom we are. Pass or fail. So then, why must we call setbacks failures? If education brings us hope, would it not be more appropriate to call failure, education?
Imagine how different things would be if our education system was designed to teach us that there is no such thing as failure, only a chance at further education. Instead of the feeling of deflation that failure leaves behind, our hope would become fuelled by the opportunity education brings.
If this is the case (and it is) why do we call it failure?
The word failure is sexy. When we rise up to overcome our challenges, it sounds sexy to say that we pushed past our failures and not we received further education. Am I right?
Power of words – Right now
At the conclusion of each day, we go to bed wishing we had it better than we do. Unbeknownst to us, the moment we wish for a difference is the precise moment that we cripple our futures.
The word wish brings about uncertainty into our minds. We wish we had it easier. We wish we made more money, we wish we could take more vacations, we wish we could buy the things we desire, and we wish that we could wake up tomorrow and it would magically be different.
The mere change of the word “wish” to “right now” dramatically influences the way we think and act.
Right now we have it easier. Right now we make more money, right now we take more vacations, right now we buy the things we desire, and right now we wake up tomorrow and things will magically be different.
Power of words – Moving forward
As we move forward, we must become consciously aware of how important our words are. As we construct our thoughts and sentences we must pay special attention to the order of the words we speak. I am, failure and education and wishing and right now are just small examples of the powerful control that words have over our lives. If we are to be in control, like the artist, the poet, the author, and the screenwriter we must hand select our words so that our message to ourselves and the world accurately reflects who we are and what we desire.
Remember, the words that we use shape our very existence and it is up to us to use them wisely.
Cheers to your success,