The more people I talk to, the more I learn that each of us has a unique story.
That’s just a little obvious, isn’t it?
It has always been a goal of mine to impact as many lives as I can in my lifetime. This is the reason I chose to launch this website. As this site grows, it hit me that I’ve created a platform for more than just my voice and opinions. I realize that I have inadvertently created a platform that allows many, including you, to speak up.
With that being said, I met Brysen about 6 months ago and was blown away by his ambition, drive, and never-ending commitment to making himself and those around him better.
I asked him to share his story and he did.
Discretion advised. His language is a little more colorful than mine, but the way it is used and the impact of his story cannot be understated.
Cheers to your success,
These two pictures are 6 years apart.
The one on the left is me at 18.
No tattoos, no piercings, no confidence in myself, no hope, no experience.
It was taken backstage at The Gas Station Theatre on Osborne St in Winnipeg.
I still remember that night like it was yesterday.
I met one of my best friends that night. He had his drums set up like a real loser and I was very confused by it.
I still remember the way the crowd looked from behind my kit.
The friends who had come to support me, the people I hung out with throughout and after the show, the girl I was seeing and the job I was working.
Looking back on the experience now, almost everything has changed.
I almost wish I could go back and warn my younger self about the shit I was going to face in the future.
Am I mad about any of it?
And here’s why.
Life is all about learning from every single experience we go through
Every good and bad experience teaches us something and leaves us with something to move forward with. It is our jobs as human beings to take what we have learned, and use it to strengthen ourselves into bigger and better versions of who we are.
It is our job to not let the world take us down and to not live with the pain that can be healed simply by letting go.
I have been fucked over, and I have fucked over others.
I have been lied to and lied myself.
I have been hurt, and I have caused a lot of pain for others.
I’m a good person, and I’ve also been an asshole.
I have done a lot of good and bad, just like everyone else.
The way I continue to grow is by understanding that everything I’ve been through has brought more strength, intelligence, and wisdom into my life.
I am where I am today because of the choices I’ve made in the past 6 years, good or bad.
I am not a victim of anything.
Holding onto anger and pain has never and will never get me anywhere.
If I could go back in time to talk to my 18-year-old self, I would say:
Remove the chip off your shoulder
You are going to stay angry at the world for way too long, causing you to miss way too many opportunities in life. You are going to feel lonely and bitter for no reason. Playing the blame game will bring you nowhere closer to where you want to go.
Stop living with a victim mentality
You look at the world as though someone or something is trying to do something to you. Almost like you’re the only person in the world that is having that experience. You’re wrong.
Realize that there are a lot more people dealing with way more harsh conditions than you will ever face. Stop having a “woe is me” attitude, and start learning and growing from everything life is throwing at you. Things aren’t as bad as you’re making them seem.
Don’t let past pain become present pain.
You’ll waste a lot of years doing so, and it will serve you no purpose.
Past pain is named that for a reason, it’s in the past. There is nothing you can do to change what has happened.
You can dwell on it, let the emotions control you and upset you
You can challenge yourself to never make those mistakes again. To position yourself so that you are becoming better from every mistake, and remembering that it is no one’s fault but yours for letting those emotions take hold of you.
Learn to let go of things and forgive others, you’ll be a lot happier you did
Forgiveness is the name of the game.
You are going to look for way too many excuses to be angry at way too many people. Instead of looking at everyone for what they did to you, focus on the moment right now. Focus on how you can make your life more positive right now.
Be happy and weightless in knowing you are not holding any more negative pain.
Forgive and forget. Move on.
Stop wasting your time with those who do not see your value
You’re going to meet a lot of people, more than you ever thought you would. And a lot of them are not going to treat you right.
They will mock you behind your back and be your best friend to your face.
Learn to read people and realize your worth.
Don’t be satisfied with mediocre friends. Choose to be alone rather than spending time with people who chop you down every chance they can.
Don’t be an asshole.
Or at least try to be less of one every day.
You’re going to experience a lot, and through those experiences, you will make a lot of mistakes. You’re going to make the wrong choice and hurt a lot of people.
Avoid any and all drama. Don’t cause any and do not continue any.
Learn to be a good friend and a good person by giving more of yourself.
Stop pointing fingers.
Understand that no one’s perfect.
I have lived way too long thinking I was a pile of garbage either from other people’s actions, or my own.
You have to be willing to take the hits to your ego.
You’ll have to be willing to lose friends along the way.
You’re going to fuck up, and that’s ok.
Life can strengthen you, or break you.
Life can build you up, or take you down.
It’s up to you to decide what you do with it.
Don’t be a victim, be a leader.
Be an example.
If you are looking for Brysen, he can be found in many places in the below places.
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/brysen.johnson?fref=ts
Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thebeardedmotivator/
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