Have you ever thought about change?
I think about it all the time and am hung up on gaining a better understanding of it.
You and I see change all the time.
The latest worldwide craze has brought more change than the Adult Colouring Book.
I am not referring to ISIS, Black Lives Matter or Donald Trump Running for Presidency.
Of course, I am talking about Pokemon Go.
This game has taken millions out of their seats and made them moderately active by forcing them to “hunt” and “capture” Pokemon.
Contrary to belief, change does not occur overnight. It actually occurs over a period of time that leads up to an instant where it must occur.
If change is a period of time that leads up to a moment where it must happen, how and why does it occur?
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change”
I remember as if it was yesterday.
At one point in my life, I was a salesman. I was living the 9-5 grind (more like the 7-7 grind) and traveling from city to city, away from my family for 3 weeks out of each month. At first, this was fun. I traveled everywhere that I could’ve wanted to travel, saw so many things and places, and met some really amazing people.
It all came crashing down on a day that I will never forget.
I was 1400 kilometers away from home, on the road, when I received a call from my wife describing the crippling pain that she was in. Over the course of the next 4 hours, I received 3 more calls, the last of which was her telling me she was in the hospital and about to undergo emergency surgery.
Immediately, I called my company looking for a way to get home. I won’t go into detail, but I wound up stranded.
As I am sure you can understand, I grew a distaste for that life.
I realized that there must be more in life and so I began looking. I didn’t look in the normal places (job bank, classifieds, job expo’s, etc.) Instead, I looked where everybody that I knew, hadn’t looked before; in books.
I picked up a book called Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and plowed through it as fast as I could. I remember reading this book and wondering where it had been all my life.
To this day, when I see the book, an image of the book and I running in slow motion towards each other, enters my mind.
This book began the “uneducation” that I didn’t know that I needed.
It was the starting point in my fascination with change.
At first, my change happened slowly. Over time, like a snowball rolling downhill over time, its pace picked up. Today I can barely keep up with it.
As my understanding of changes increases, I have noticed a few recurring trends:
- Lasting change ONLY happens after you realize and understand that your current place is a direct result of the decisions and situations that you have made. It does not matter if these decisions were conscious or unconscious, each of them has influenced where you find yourself right now. The key is to become thoughtful of your conscious choices and rewire the unconscious ones.
- More often than not, change is the result of drastic events. Think back to the moments that have defined your life. Why did those moments happen? Change in my life began when I realized that I did not like the life I was living and it only intensified when I found myself stranded on the road, in another city, while my wife underwent emergency surgery. With this information in hand, I read the book, Rich Dad Poor Dad and the rest is history. I now ask you, has something happened in your life that will trigger change? If not, what needs to happen?
- We all resist change because we don’t want to give up what we don’t know. As a rule, humans fear everything that they don’t know or understand. This is primarily due to a defense mechanism that has been hardwired into you, me and everyone else. It has been there to save you in the past and will continue to save you in the future. However, to force change, you must be willing to step around this mechanism and step into the unknown.
“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief.”
If you have a story or a moment that you would like to share, please leave it in the comments below. I would love to hear your story.
Cheers to your success,