I had a breakthrough sometime over the last two weeks.
Let me explain.
Usually, my 16-month-old son spends his days at daycare with his care provider. Last week he couldn’t. She took a well-deserved/much-needed vacation and as such was unable to watch him.
Without daycare, I stepped up to the plate.
That’s right, Me, Joel, Dad.
After the better part of 192 hours, I can proudly say that it was one of the best weeks of my life. Not only did the two of us have the most amazing time of his short life, we also came together and bonded like never before. Zero regret.
In my house, my wife and I have put in place a semi-strict (on its way to being strict) policy that neither of us is permitted to work while we are around our son. Believe it or not, this isn’t as easy as you might think. The invention of smartphones has made it extremely difficult to “unplug” from the world. At any given time, you can receive a message, tag, tweet, email, like, share, or call from anybody.
In our world, every minute of the day is a chance to close one more deal, write one more article, or reach out to one more person. Compound this with the fact that Sarah (my wife) and I are proud workaholics and you have a recipe for a challenge.
Those 192 hours saw me become very creative with how I spaced out my day. If you have ever decided to quit looking at your phone “cold turkey” you know it isn’t easy. There are moments where you feel like an addict on the hunt for one more hit.
The first days were tough and I felt lost. As each hour passed I wondered how I was going to make it through the next.
Therein is the beauty of life. When feeling lost overcomes your mental state, life has a funny way of providing direction. This last week my direction came in a 3 foot tall, 28-pound package.
Jim Rohn is often quoted as saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” When I first heard this I rushed out to meet as many new people as I could so that I was able to pick and choose who I wanted to be with. I wanted to make business connections with whoever I thought could help me. Sure enough, I met a few new people but none of them stuck around.
I began to question why.
What I didn’t realize was that Jim Rohn actually meant for you to change who you are so that you naturally attract those that you want to be with. As I aged, I began to change who I was and as a consequence, I attracted those that shared my values in life, business, and love.
During those years of formative change, I couldn’t possibly have predicted who I would want to spend the most amount of time with. You have probably guessed it by now. The person is that same 3 foot tall, 28-pound individual mentioned above.
Knowing what I now know, I wouldn’t go back and change a single thing. I wouldn’t rush out to change who I was, and I would still pick and choose the people I associate with.
If I was able to do that, it wouldn’t be possible for me to be where I am today.
I am often quoted as saying, “There is no such thing as a regret. The decisions you make and experiences you have are exactly what you wanted at that point in time. Without it, you wouldn’t be where you are today. Learn from your mistakes and apply what you have learned but never call them regret.”
Am I right?
Cheers to your success,
Cautionary note: If you make the same decision over or you repeatedly make the same mistake, then maybe just maybe, you have the right to call it a regret.